When a loved one passes, life as you know it will never be the same. It is hard to imagine enjoying the same activities you used to do with your loved one. Sometimes it seems that you may never truly enjoy anything ever again.
This blog post walks us through personal accounts that deal with these very issues, discussing how to accept new realities and find a way back to joy and fulfillment.
This post tells us why "safe people" are incredibly valuable people to have on our journey of grief.
As grievers we need to find ‘safe people’ who will help mark the significance of what just happened to us. Safe people know the depth of our pain only because they’ve known that kind of pain themselves. Safe people are those who know our confusion, fear and vulnerability because they have experienced worlds of their own being turned upside down and inside out. We need safe people who will listen to our stories over and over without rolling their eyes, comparing, or interrupting us because they heard it before, or sit in judgement of us (judgement ranging from ‘how strong we are’ to ‘don’t you think it’s time to get over it’).
Sheryl Sandberg lost her husband Dave Goldberg 30 days ago in a tragic treadmill accident while on vacation in Mexico.
During the month since his death, Sandberg has learned about love, life and how to cope with extreme grief. She wrote all these lessons down in a Facebook essay so others who face tragedy can learn from her experience.
The advice is really good, whether you're experiencing a loss or helping someone else who is. For example, Sheryl says asking "How are you doing today?" is better than asking her, "How are you doing," since the latter suggests ignorance about a great loss, and the former implies knowing it's hard to get through each and every day.
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~ A Celebration of Life, Love, & Light ~
Rock THE Park is a free event, open to the entire community, blending the elements of Horizon’s annual Life Lights into an outdoor music festival. As Life Lights has traditionally offered an opportunity to memorialize those who have gone before us, we want to incorporate this beautiful component; however, with the intent that guests feel connected in a joyous, celebratory fashion.
To those who helped Horizon make our 9th Annual Matters of the Heart Gala possible, "Thank you."
To our gala guests - To our 75+ volunteers - To our gala committee - To our mission video participants - To our basket participants - To those who contributed, in any fashion - THANK YOU!
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10 Risks We are Faced with on our Journey of Grief - -
"Several years ago my nephew gave up a full time job, and all the benefits that go with it, to pursue a life-long dream of immersing himself into music. Incredibly risky, three years later he owns and operates a successful online guitar lesson business and has published two acoustic guitar albums which are relatively popular. As much as we humans want things in life to be neat, organized, predictable, controlled and orderly, there sure seems to be exceptions to that ‘rule’ for what really matters to us. We are willing to take risks, big and small, when it comes to what we deem as really important. In truth, we take risks constantly, particularly when it comes to relationships...."